(Really just ordering my thoughts here while writing this down…)
Of course whisper networks aren’t a very viable way of protection for everyone. They do work for some people, but their usefulness is always limited. I don’t think that’s a very important point. There are many others, in both posts.
And of course this was never about rape. Cathyr19355 pointed out on the first page of this thread that the term "predator" was at least a tad too strong. All the accusations leveled at AK basically came down to this: A) that he is a "creep" who regularly makes women around him feel extremely uncomfortable. The most serious accusation B) was that he was not only fully aware of this, but actively working to silence people about this issue.
It would certainly be interesting to learn who ran the original "IndustryAbuse" twitter account who started spreading the accusations about AK and others, but I guess there’s not much hope here. In any way, it was these tweets that sparked Meg Jayanth’s tweets, which in turn were, almost immediately, backed up by a number of people, culminating even in an official FB statement that these accusations were quite credible.
I still find these accusations A) very credible. Do not forget that it was a games journalist, Leigh Alexander, who was among the first to make the "open secret everyone knew about for years" statement. As a journalist, she has to be really, really careful with statements like that. If her claim was proven to be false, it could be her career in tatters. And FB, too, are putting their company’s name on the line by making such a clear statement. They could’ve been a lot foggier in their wording. When I look at the motivations of all these people who made these very clear statements, I can’t see them backing up unfounded claims simply out of revenge, the heat of the moment, or whatever. All of them have too much to lose themselves.
I was never sure about part B) and must say that AK’s defense about that part sounds credible, too. Otherwise, we would have to imagine him as a James-Bond-villain-like devilish mastermind - rather unlikely.
In the end, it boils (and always boiled) down to this: AK acted "creepy" towards an undefined number of women. Whether he did this "habitually" we do not know. He himself is probably in complete denial about it. (I don’t think I need to point out how totally, depressingly common this sort of thing is.)
Is that a problem? Sure.
Should that ruin his career? Probably not. His life? Definitely not.
Is it understandable that the emotions of the accusers boiled over when it seemed that something which they had suppressed for so long was finally being talked about? Absolutely.
Does that mean that online call-outs are generally great and totally unproblematic? Absolutely not.
Do you have a better idea? Tell me about it.
The baseline is that both Lottie’s and AK’s statements contain a lot of important truths, without actually refuting the accusations A) (even though they probably believe they do). As is not unusual, everyone is speaking the truth on some level. Undoubtedly, this whole thing is incredibly hurtful to everyone involved. Undoubtedly, we - bystanders and third parties - should all back up a step. Unless more, especially more dreadful, things come to light, I consider this file closed.